"Because I have never been treated badly, never been blatantly disrespected by a woman with whom I was in a relationship, I always wished them the best when our journey ended. Even if we couldn’t remain friends, I care about them and their happiness.
So to the men out there who got next on my girl, here’s something I’d like to say to you. Man to man.
I’m not here to ruffle any feathers; not in the business of starting some drama. Man to man, I just feel like I need to say something and when I’m done, no need to thank me, just take what I say about your girl for what it’s worth and use it to your liking.
Your new girl is my ex girl, and as you probably already know she’s a great girl. What you might not know is she’s absolutely crazy, but don’t worry she’s going to show you that sooner than later. She’s crazy and yeah, I’ll be the first to admit, a part of her craziness is probably my fault. I didn’t find her like that, I kind of made her like that.
I did some things I shouldn’t of done when we were together. I made her mad, I made her cry, I made her a skeptic. So now, she’s a little crazy, and you’re about to see that firsthand, but here’s my advice, for what it’s worth. Just roll with it. Because as crazy as she gets, watch what happens when she goes crazy over you.
She’s going to treat you like a king, and probably do things for you she used to tell me she would never do for anyone. Things like, learn how to make a dish she never made before just because you said you had a taste for it, or watch a show she swore she wouldn’t like just because it’s your favorite.
She’ll do little things like that just to show how crazy she is over you, but to get there, you’re going to have to be a little crazy too. Crazy to put up with her antics, the ones she developed when she was with me. Things like, going through your phone while you’re in the shower just because it’s unlocked, or going off on you just because you went out with your friends and didn’t call when you said you were going to call.
I should apologize, in advance, for all that BS, you’re going to endure, because a part of it is my fault. But, look man, it’s worth it. Trust me. That little bit of crazy she has, in exchange for all the good she can offer, is a fair trade. You just have to be willing to work for it, like I did, and let me tell you, it’s not going to be easy.
Because I may have made her crazy, but how do you think I did that? It’s not only because of the bad I done, it’s also because of the good.
I set the bar high, my dude. Just ask her how high. She’ll probably tell you, I did okay, but trust me, the minute you mess up, she’ll think back to how I did better than okay. A big reason why I’m friends with all my exes to this day is because in retrospect, all of them give me props for how good I treated them, and your woman, my ex, is no different.
I made her laugh, and she loved that. I made her smile, she loved that. I knew how to make her feel good, and she loved that. So don’t think because she’s not with me now, and you’re in there, you’re better than. No, you’re just next, and not only do you have to meet the bar I set, it’s on you to raise it higher.
For that, you don’t need any words of advice from me, you just need to sip from a big old bottle of patience and hope your methods are better than mine. You have a good woman, my man. A very good woman. Don’t just treat her right. Treat her better than I did.”
Written by Jozen Cummings
A good friend of mine was also inspired and wrote her own: Woman To The Next Woman